Last night my husband was sitting beside me and he said he was getting a surprise at work this Friday. I said what surprise, thinking that maybe he was buying something from someone he worked with. Well he proudly announced that to help out some charity he had bought a dozen doughnuts from Krispy Kreme. I said are you crazy why would you get something like that to bring in this house when you know I'm trying to lose weight. He said he thought the kids would enjoy them and that he was trying to do something nice to help out the cause that people were selling them for. Now it is not like him at all to pay $7.00 for a dozen doughnuts and if I had done that he would have said I was crazy. I feel strong enough to resist the urge to eat them but why would I set myself up for temptation when I don't have to plus honestly my kids don't need them either. He saw how upset I was and said that he would just keep them at work and give them out to his friends but sometimes I just feel like he is out to sabotage me, I've even told him so. He says he's not but I called him a food pusher last night because he is always asking me if I want this or want that and I have to say no. All I can say is thank God my willpower is so strong.Do you have people in your life that you feel are out to sabotage you? What do you do to keep this from happening?
I know exactly how you feel. My mother is like that in my case. She would buy things she knows that I don't want to eat because I am on a diet. For example, I stopped drinking soda and one day last week she bought me a bottle of soda and I said to her why would you buy me a bottle of soda if you know i don't drink soda anymore you could have brought me a Crystal Bay. Her response was yea i thought about it but i just got the soda. (Sigh) Honestly, I have no idea how to deal with her I have just started ignoring what she is doing wrong and not giving her any extra attention. When she buys me stuff I don't want I leave it in the fridge or I give it to someone else. It's not worth getting worked up about. My focus is on losing weight. I don't know your husband but maybe he has some insecurities that are causing him to be like this. or maybe he honestly doesn't realize what he is doing to you.
ReplyDeleteI dunno about sabotaging so much as they don't think about the new me as much as I do. I think it is an old habits die hard thing. Kathy has learned that if she tries to cook something I have said I won't eat, I won't eat it. It used to aggravate her, but now she knows and accepts it.
ReplyDeleteThe honest to god truth is I don't know. I don't think my husband is trying to sabotage me, but I might not know it if he did. I am committed to eating what I need, and I have blocked everything else out. I actually think he is being pretty supportive, but I don't expect him to. I am willing to die (metaphorically of course) on this hill.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I were having these problems before. One of the things I try to avoid at all costs is fast food, and he's a junkie where that's concerned. He used to call on his way home from work and ask if I wanted him to stop, or hit a drive through with me in the car. His attitude before was always "Just because it's here doesn't mean you have to eat it." I've noticed in the last few weeks that he's been making a HUGE effort to not tempt me anymore. If he has a craving for fast food, he does it while I'm at work. It took months to get here, but it's worth it. I just had to keep reminding him that me getting healthier benefits him too.
ReplyDeleteI still have a LOT of problems with my mother trying to sabotage me (she asked me to drive by my favorite cupcake place this week after my cheat night and pick up a dozen.. um no) but I'm staying firm.
My best advice is to hold your ground, and when you do see them making an effort to respect your decision- thank them for it. Eventually they will see this is permanent and will learn to be respectful of our new healthier lifestyles!
I think all of you hit a common theme maybe they just don't realize what they are doing. I mean my husband has seen me start and stop a million diets and maybe in his head this is just another time I'm going to give up or fail but this time is different. I am determined to lose this weight and get healthy and I will not let anyone or anything stand in my way. This is just another battle we have to fight in our weight loss journey and I guess its better that we learn to deal with temptation now then after we lose the weight.
ReplyDeleteI have food police in my life with little comments like, should you really be eating that? Are you allowed to eat that? etc. It's none of their business, and I'm an adult. I know what I have to eat or not eat. So annoying, ugh.
ReplyDeleteKelly I guess it depends on who you are. I would actually appreciate someone saying those things to me and sometimes my kids do but my husband never has. I guess after awhile and them not knowing what you can and can't eat it would get annoying but in my case it would just be nice to know that someone cared enough to say something.
ReplyDeleteI have had people who have accused my wife of trying to sabatoge me. She knows what foods I consider treats, and she tries to have them in the house for me. While they are acceptable, they aren't meant to eat regularly. Even if our significant others aren't trying to sabatoge us, it doesn't help. If they only knew that what we need most is for them to rid the house of the temptations.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear about this, but I am glad you were strong.
~South Beach Steve
Thank you Steve you are exactly right. I don't expect my husband to eat healthy just because I am but please don't bring home stuff to tempt me with. Maybe over time he will change who knows, but I will continue to be strong no matter what.
ReplyDeleteI hate to admit it, but I am the food police in my office! My BFF and I work together, and we're both on weight watchers. Our lunches, and sometimes breakfast and afternoon snacks, are catered daily. You never know what you'll find in the kitchen around there! When I know something is in the kitchen that's a particular weakness for her, I remind her when her next weigh-in is (she calls me the WW Nazi!), and how many points that tiny piece of bread is. She does the same for me when I'm struggling too. It really is nice having each other there for support, especially when the rest of the office has been quite the opposite!
ReplyDeleteMrs. D that is great that you are there for each other. I wish I had someone to be my food police but I guess I will just have to look out for myself.
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